Woman... or... Victim
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What I have been thinking of the day to day news of devastation of women was, oh God, can't they be more cautious before plunging into the situation, but when it happened to me then I realized that despite of status, education, intelligence women can't help falling prey to the hands of a man.
Though Islam is the biggest protector of women's rights but this society, their own families and even they themselves become the reason of their devastation.
I was married 3 months back to a British national Pakistani, I'm 40 and he was 60 with 2 kids in London, 3 lakh was decided as haqmeher in nikah. He was not only an ugly face but a jahil, ignorant, ill character bastard whose face was the the index of his inner self, he kept me for 2 months and then went back to London without divorcing me and not even given the haqmeher. I used to think about me that I'm very smart and it was not easy to exploit me, but God knows that under social and family pressure I ruined myself, but now nobody is there to fight for me but Allah who has His own plans and time to deal with it. I really don't know where to take my agony which is ruining my confidence and trust on everybody. I have thought so many solutions but due to many reasons I can't use them, can u imagine the plight of a woman who can deal with it but cannot bring that swine to the execution because "naam hain is mai kuch ghairon ke, kuch ehbab mere apne hain".
The real matter is that our government should make a law to protect the rights of the women like me.
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they say they are muslim but they follow indian traditions on the whole.
giving gurti to the new born baby is hindu tradition.
mehndi in a wedding, expensive dresses, jewelry all came from hindu tradition.
Islam doesn't say it's mandatory that in a marriage a woman is supposed to give dowry.
But it is important that a man can give meherhaq whenever the woman asks for it, whether they are living together or not. as simple as that.
In pakistan every law is made for women to follow, but not for men. dowry is for women by hindu religion, for which they are converting religion to christianity. so what's wrong with being a muslim>? where God has given most of the right to women!
so many people have viewed your post but no comment. it's a shame that no one can feel what you have been through.